Don't let your one bruised apple mean you throw the whole apple cart away!

Living with the guilt of not being perfect in all areas of our lives, can sometimes mean that we choose not to share the great skills, talents, gifts that we have because there is that one thing that isn't going well for us.

Putting things into perspective is going to make life a lot easier and will let you see the wood from the trees when you focus on what it is you want to do, what you are great at and how you can give what you have to the people who need it.

We live in a world of abundance.

This means that we constantly have the thought of:

• there are so many people doing this
• why am I any different?
• Why would I have something to give or something to say that people want to hear
• How can I teach someone how to do X when my Y is in the poo!

Be clear on what you have to give and feel excited to give it.  Think about how you can provide clear systems and outcomes for the people you work with even if you're just helping your friends.

Be a realist about what you have to give and that EVERYBODY has things that aren't perfect.  Even the people you look at and think they have everything together.  I can guarantee you that there is something that is not perfect in their lives ~ it's just the way life is.

A little challenge for you over the next week:

For one week, I want to focus only on the great things you do and have.

1. Acknowledge your gifts

So everyday think about, what skills do I have that I can offer either in my job or in my business?  Because we do these things everyday, we don't actually stop to articulate or focus on what it is we actually do.   Take the time to acknowledge it.  If you're a stay at home mum then there are loads of things that you can name that you do that are awesome and critical to your family.   Just because you do it everyday doesn't mean that it's not special and important.

2. Write it down.

Things become more official when you write them down, so take 10 minutes and list the things that you think you're great at and the things you enjoy.  There is a quote by Danielle LaPorte that I love that goes something like this….

“It's not about you setting up the world to help you feel the way that you want to feel.   You are relying on outside forces to inform your reality.  If you want to feel respected and valued then you have to respect and value yourself.  You bring that feel to the table not wait for others to make you feel that way”

3.  Accept Imperfection

Just accept that every single person, including those you hold in such high regard, are imperfect.  Don't come down on yourself so hard every time things don't work out.  Trust me I know.  I'm in a constant state of learning, WHY? because I mistakes all the time.  What I do take away is a sense of excitement that I won't let that happen again.  I'll be more focused, more structured, lesson learnt.

4. Change what you need to – Lesson learnt

When you acknowledge the imperfection, just try and have a clear outcome that means you'll try and ensure it doesn't happen again.  If you lost the client or the project went array, then what was it that made that happen?  I recently balls something up because I didn't clarify the process to the client.  Trust me….that will NEVER happen again.  Lesson learnt and now there is a safety step in place to ensure it doesn't happen again.

Focusing on what you do well will help you overcome things that don't feel so great. Bring respect and acknowledgement of a job well done to yourself and don't rely on others to validate you all the time.

Be kind to yourself and have a wonderful week.

You're doing a great job! xxx